Putting an end to the sequence

Experience is believed to be the best teacher but what if you keep going through the same thing over again despite having been messed up by what you have gone through, it is a question that is open and am sure many people find themselves in this state. Picture a spouse who is constantly being abused by the latter and still holds on to what seems like an everlasting tormenting commitment with someone who does not show signs of turning a new leaf or a person who frequently finds themselves in compromising situations that put them in grave danger regardless of the fact that they know the circumstances that put them there in the first place before it already happens.

Maybe it’s an addiction of some sort or acting forces beyond our control but such humility and constant repetition in a person’s life is cause for alarm. Personally have done and experienced things I swore never again to go through yet I keep finding myself in the same situation all over again. Can’t really explain reasons behind this, but one thing I do know is by the end of it all, the only thing I want is not to go through it again.

Perhaps am being too rigid in embracing changes in my life resorting to the simple normal daily routine that am used and comfortable with something that exposes me to the same situations. Changes are bound to happen whether I like it or not and so the best thing for me is to be prepared thus once they happen I know exactly how to react and accommodate them.

Desperation is another factor which blinds individuals into believing that the immediate solution is the only alternative to what they desire in life. Taking time to explore all the options is critical when you find yourself in such a situation since rushing into things my later on lead to regrets. Patience is another thing of which am working on and am sure in the long run I will be in a position to make the right choices and predict a disappointment brewing to happen thus avoid the whole drama of experiencing it.

Whatever the kind of situations we find ourselves in despite having gone through them once or twice, moving on is something critical and if it helps it doesn’t stress to take notes. A constant reminder of past mistakes will keep you alert on things happening around you and we should not limit ourselves to them, in fact they are the ones that bring out the greatness locked within us once we overcome and learn how to avoid them.

Appreciating The Gift of Life

As I was watching news the other day, there was a story about a 17 year old girl who was partially blind in addition to being enrolled in a school where she was studying with younger students than her. Despite her condition and the age difference between her and her fellow students, she had a lot of hopes for her future. According to her, she was on the road of fulfilling her dreams to becoming someone significant and contributing something towards the well being of the society. She looked beyond her condition moreover; her physical state was not going to stop her in becoming what she wanted to be in life. This kept me thinking and something deep inside me was touched. Imagining the kinds of challenges she might be going through as a person, to top it all up with her physicals state, she till had a positive attitude towards life.

We hear of people committing suicide because of the stress they encounter in life, some of them don’t even clearly define the reasons behind ending their life abruptly and most of such cases come from people who are well physically. I find it hard to see how a person who is perfectly normal can choose to end their life while there others out there who in spite of their physical condition, know it in themselves that they have a purpose in life and go to the extent of achieving great things in life, despite of how they were born or perhaps due to an incident beyond their control, that they are the way they are.

As human being we are not perfect, we face certain challenges in life that are hard to cope with sometime but, should that be the reason for hating living that much to the extent of opting to end it? Can’t say that I truly understand the kind of reasons that push an individual to such limits and that I have the solution to whatever such people go through to reach such a state, one thing I know is that no matter the kind of predicament a person finds themselves in, ending their life is not the best possible solution. Everyone has a purpose in life; we all have a right to live it to the fullest no matter what is ditched to us while on the road to achieving that which we are meant to achieve while still alive.

Personally am thankful of my physical condition, I don’t have to wait for that to change for me to follow my dreams and achieve them, everyday I strive to make the best out of every situation am faced with and most of all, appreciate the gift of life given to me freely and believe there is nothing that can make me despise life that much to the extent of getting tired of living. There people out there who regardless of their conditions and how they are viewed by the society simply because of their physical challenges, still make it in life.

Doing something practicle

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Some few weeks ago while in church I heard a message form a female pastor that really sunk into me. She touched a topic which some of us might be taking for granted or perhaps fall in the same dilemma. It was about prayer and Gods response to our prayers. It became obvious that people usually pray for something and expect their prayers to be answered, one thing they forget is that not everything comes in a silver platter as I latter on came to realize. Basically, as much as one prays for something with the expectation of their prayers being answered, they have to make an effort towards the things they pray for.

An example was given of someone praying for a wife or a husband, according to the pastors’ message, this prayer cannot be answered by God providing one with a suitable lifetime companion straight form heaven while they sit around and wait for this to happen, an effort has to be made by the individuals after praying towards the things they have prayed for. I guess this meant being open to relationships and not limiting their interactions with other people and of course depending on His guidance to find the desired partner to settle with. I related this message to some of the things I usually pray for in the hopes of having my prayers answer and getting what I truly desire in life.

A good job and leading a responsible life are some of the things at the top of my list when it comes to my unanswered prayers.  As much as I pray and sit around waiting for such things to happen in my life, without making an effort towards the things that I pray and desire for, in the long run I might end up not acquiring them. That is why in regards to getting a job; at first I was sitting around and depending on other people to connect me into an organization for employment. Come to think of it, this wasn’t the right approach to starting a career and took it upon myself to search for places, introduce myself without anyone’s help and continue with my prayers as I wait for a good response.

Maybe people get discouraged if they don’t get what they want in life especially after a long wait of continuous prayer without any change in their current status. What I can say in regards to this is that, as much as we depend on the power of prayer, we should also make an effort towards the things we pray for. I mean it is most unlikely for things to happen just by prayer alone, it must be accompanied by something practice.

Self reality

People react differently to the issues they are faced with, some opting to give up while others deal with them head on, sometimes with little, or no hope of  finding a solution. Fear of the unknown plays an important role when it comes to combating issues in life whereby, as one is faced with a bad situation  for the first time, isolation becomes a key component of their lives. This is brought about by ones' perception that they are the only ones undergoing such an experience and  no other person has gone through it. We should realize that no matter how hard we are on ourselves, just because we got ourselves into those issues we choose to include as part of our lives, there is always a solution and we don't have to wait for others to find it. So if you think you are in a messed up situation either self inflicted, or through the assistance of some other party, don't let that situation get to you. It all starts with beliving in yourself. You should not allow issues to tear you down and get stuck in life, sometimes we face them only to realise the potential of our limits by overcoming them.

Thinking beyond infatuation

Life is too short for rehearsal, sometimes it becomes difficult to undue the path one is taking in life as a result of the decision they chose to make.  As human beings we are generally emotional and sometimes our emotions tend to overwhelm us to the extent of not thinking through the actions we end up taking. Imagine you have just meet someone in your life whom you are attracted to but hardly know anything about them, with an introduction and some little familiarity with that person you decide to put your trust in them simply because of their looks, not forgetting the flattery first impression you might receive from them. What happens if they turn out to be less than you expected or they end up messing your life up simply because you put all your trust in them? It is hard to tell someone’s intentions since they can easily conjure up a new personality aimed at luring you into a trap while they hide their true identity. Since it is difficult to detect such traits in a person, whether it is a marriage partner one is looking for or simply a friend to share life’s happiness and be there for each other in times of sorrow, we should not let the way we feel for such people cloud our judgment.  It is important to keep in mind that any decision we choose to take while interacting with others might change our lives either positively or make us dread the day those people entered our lives. This does not mean that trusting other people is a bad idea, get to know them first, don’t become ignorant of their past by depending on what they selectively choose to expose to you. Another thing is that before taking a big step in life with someone else you should get the facts straight; don’t make the mistake of putting you life on the line in the name of love. It’s better to be safe than to blindly depend on a persons appearance and the way they present themselves to you.